Happy People: They Are Real

 Once upon a time someone wrote ...

"I don't believe anyone who pretends to be happy all the time!  You're not a real person."

... And so a "happy person", with the help of a "real person" most famously known for his intelligence, was inspired to share with the world that people who believe in fairy tales will put all their energy into creating their own.  For if you hold the pen, only you can decide if each day will hold a happy ending.

As a real person, you have no wand!

Because you most obviously cannot wave your magical wand and turn each day into a happy one, you must learn to find the magic already existing inside yourself!

Magic!  All real people have it!

Those actively looking for this magic and consciously practicing it, will naturally become a positively  positive force to be reckoned with.

Negativity is the happy person's tool.  

Well hello! This is science!  Can positivity even exist without negativity?  If it did, what a bore!  A happy person uses the negative to find the positive in a place many think to be non-existent.

What is unhappiness?  Problems.
What is happiness?  Resolution of problems.

Seems simple, but only to those who believe continuous happiness to be a real state of mind.

Dare to argue with Einstein?  Is he not a real person?

"No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it."
- Albert Einstein

Most problems are solved with finding the role you played in creating them.  Instead of looking for resolution, most people will carry on in their lives and tote around the problem in mind, words, and actions.  When you stay active in the problem, you're just another villain in the story.  But who plays the villain in his or her own story?!

Allowing misery to take the joy from life is choosing to continue to dwell, or may I say "drown" in the consciousness which creates it.  One who waits for the experience of misery to feel grateful is also a real person, just a real backwards one.  If you are waiting for the painful and sad moments of your life to make you experience the beauty of gratitude and love, which is the true essence of life, you're living life backwards.  If you live your life backwards, you will never ever get to where you're meant or want to be.  And so because you cannot find happiness living backwards, you will think it doesn't exist.  You will think it's momentary, temporary, or completely unattainable in the sad, sad story you write yourself.

Can you imagine doing some of the things you do everyday backwards?  Drive your car backwards, walk backwards, talk backwards ... You're bound to fail.

It's inevitable.

True happiness isn't maintaining a smile through pain.  It isn't telling people you're happy when your not.  It's not play pretend.  In fact, those who play pretend suffer more than those who wear their misery.

A truly happy person is one who practices a life that starts each and every day with gratitude.  Starting each day thankful for your life is opening yourself to what the universe has in store for you!  When you are grateful for what you already have, at the start of each day, you make room for more!  Bigger than that, you welcome it and invite it in!

Because we are human, we are naturally and spiritually empathetic and totally emotional.  We have to experience all emotions to have a truly happy life.  Anyone who is PRETENDING to be happy all the time is a real person too, just a real miserable person.

Imagination is reality.

Our minds which house our imagination can go only one of two ways.  It's the battle in all fairytales; the reoccurring theme of good versus evil.  Most think of imagination and think of childhood.  Yes, that is absolutely where our imagination is seeded. Childhood is a time where the roots are planted for us to harvest our imaginations for adulthood, to feed our minds of all which we can imagine our lives to be.  The happy life exists in your mind, not outside of yourself! Because society tells us imagination is for childlike games and pretending, we grow into conformed and submissive adults that don't think for themselves and are likened to a robot (see "The American Robot, Part 1").

"Imagination is everything.
It is the preview of life's coming attractions".

- Albert Einstein

The person who lives a truly happy life is the one who has the magic to turn negative feelings into positive ones.  Practice gratitude at the start of each and every day and you will manifest the power to find happiness  through all experience and emotion.

So if you are going to live the backwards life, You might as well just walk out of your house in a hand stand and drive with your head in the seat and your feet at the wheels!  And if you are okay with the backwards life, understand that the words you say will only be understood by those who too, choose to live the backwards life.

For the words that come from a
backwards person only sound like the language of misery, which to a real happy person, just sounds backwards!

"Oh but fairytales do exist, my dear.  I know because I live one myself!"

Happily,

Jennifer of Happy, Ever After <3

Love Me, I Do

Love Me, I Do

I love learning, teaching
I love mirrors, reflections
I love beauty in colors
I love art, in all it's forms
I love helping, serving needs
I love children, their curiosity
I love mistakes
I love progressing
I love building
I love growing
I love climbing
I love my elders, their wisdom
I love partying, the mingle
I love sleeping, my rest
I love being silent,
amongst all its noise
I love going away and coming back
I love sunny days and rain water
I love different people doing different things
I love different people doing the same things
I love my memories, yesterday
I love my dreams, tomorrow
I love today
I love right now
I love living my life
I love seeing you live yours
Love me, I do
And because of that,
I love you, too,
Lovingly.

Destination: Land of Assumption

All aboard! All aboard!

This train is heading to the Land of Assumption, where nothing of no one is known.  Thank you for assuming your ticket to this boundless Land.

However, your tickets come with a travel warning: All Ticket Holders MUST Be Riders!! No cancellations, no delays, no refunds!! This policy serves as responsibility of choice in deciding to visit the Land.

Once you've arrived, you will be staying at the all-inclusive resort of your Imagination. Anything can happen here...but only what you assume.

Dear Fear

Dear Fear,

I am writing you this letter to inform you, as of today, I will no longer need your services. I have recently come to the realization that you serve no real purpose. If anything, you have been of a disservice to me - mind, body and soul.

I no longer need your sadness to fill any voids. I have discovered voids are nothing more than a fun house mirror, a distorted image of myself, an illusion of a mind controlled by my ego. I am everything I need.  I always have been. No more tears and puffy eyes to deter my beauty.

I no longer need your anger and hostility. Accepting your mean words, strapped me into a roller coaster of emotions, and physical pain.  Uncontrollable the boxcar raced as I sat strapped in, unable to slow it down, sometimes just wishing it would run off track, taking me to my demise, just to stop the pain.  Regrettably, I would join the ride, saying things I don't mean, to people I sincerely love.  All along I held the button to stop it inside the pockets of my soul.

I no longer need your anxiety and doubt.  The games you made me play with my soul, I never got anything done.  Procrastination swallowed my potential, but I've forced it back up as my mind, body , and soul continues to purge your lies, your false advertisement.  "Perfectionist" they call me, but inside I feel perfectly incomplete.

I no longer need your jealousy. It stole my confidence, and continued to haunt me.  I thought I was inferior, so I would steal from others and take the credit. I no longer breathe your hate and am no longer lonely, as my acceptance for myself and others attracts love and life.

I am divine, with my own talents and passions, uniquely my own. I walk to my own beat, as I am the creator of my soul's song, my life's album.

To think, you really thought you'd be better, than I, at being me. Ha!

Fearlessly,

Happy Me

The Box

What's a Box?? A box is defined as a cubed container used to hold things, usually for a purpose. However, the space within any box is very limited, so only a few things, out of an infinite supply of things, can fit into this space.

Because the space is so limited, you must choose what goes inside this box based on what is most important to you. If we are talking about your life, per se, some important items may be memories of your past, your beliefs, your values, what you already "know" and have already experienced. People tend to stay in their boxes, it's all they know. People hold on tightly to their boxesThere is much security and certainty in the "known". People want security and certainty, tightly holding to their boxes,. But what does security and certainty offer?? In a nutshell, security and certainty offers everything old, repetitive, and predictable.  This is the life of an American Robot. What newness, excitement, and/or mystery can ones's box offer??

None. No learning, no creativity, no growth, no progress takes place "inside the box". This is probably why when finding answers to tough questions, people tend to suggest to "think outside the box". Hold on, what are they really asking us to do?? How do you think "outside" of the box??  The purpose of the box is to hold important  things, so why would you go outside this box for any reason??  Even when you leave your box to get something, once you have it, the statement implies you indeed return to your box.

"Instead of thinking outside the box, get rid of the box", says our dear friend, Deepak Chopra.  You must shed your box to truly be free.

If we are a world full of boxes, categorized, organized, and sorted, we are settling to be stored away and soon to be forgotten.  Break your box down and become connected to yourself  and your place in this big, big Universe.

Smile.

   Makeup, hair extensions, false eyelashes, push up bras, spanx, high heels, expensive clothes and haute couture fashion all present, with the intent to be beautiful: but are you happy?  Scrolling through our newsfeed, "beauty might bring happiness, but happiness always brings beauty."  The beauty of your happiness comes from your smile.

    Anyone can recognize a smile; teeth will show and eyes will smile too.  Most importantly, you will also notice an inviting positive energy emitting from the smiler. This called kindness "... a language that the deaf can hear and the blind can see," from the man himself, Mark Twain.  "Language" is the understood communication between two entities, or individuals. With that being said, smiling is a Universal Language, understood by all, with no words needed.

   Everyone has the ability to offer kindness, to others and themselves, regardless of their circumstance or experience. Smiling speaks loudest to you. Scientists have studied the personal effects of smiling; when you smile, you feel better, and isn't feeling better a reason to smile? So, even if you don't feel good to start with, just smile. Life in that moment may not be the party you hoped for, but while you're there you might as well dance!

   Smiling between two positive energies is contagious.  When you smile, others magically smile back. The sight of someone smiling because of you, is the best feeling on Earth in that moment. Some may not reciprocate the gesture, but let no one separate you from your smile. After all, isn't better to be the one who smiled, than the one who didn't smile back?

The American Robot, Part 1: The Introduction

Who is the American Robot?  Although it pains me to admit it, I am.  In fact, we all have a little American Robot in us.  According to Happy, Ever After, the American Robot is an individual who lives day to day, week to week, and year to year on society's autopilot.  Instead of questioning, seeking, and discovering what's true to ones own experience by freedom of choice, we opt to allow society to act as the control panel behind ALL of our choices.

Is the American Robot an exaggeration?  Is it unfair to generalize American society in this fashion?  Most honestly, I laugh and say NO.   No matter which area of life we discuss,  we are, some way-some how, victim of this mind poison.  Chances are, we are born into it, after all, we are offspring of a generation that portrayed smoking cigarettes as the ultimate cool and sexy social accessory.

Who are you and why are you who you are?  What do you eat?   Why do you eat what you eat? How do you love?  What do you love?  What do you have?  What do you want to have?  Are you healthy?  Are you stressed?  What stresses you?  Who do you aim to please?  Are you pleased?  What pleases you?  What are your plans?  What are your goals?  How you answer these, if answered honestly,  will reflect the inner American Robot that lives in you.

Knowledge and self education of all areas of life are key, but you must make the choice and put forth the effort to be the greatest version of yourself. It all starts with  understanding  yourself as an individual created  unlike any other in the universe- remember no two individuals have the same fingerprints (not even "identical" twins). We are made with uniqueness. Understanding how we, as human beings operate within this magical universe will seemingly feel much like a fairy tale.

What is your life like?  Are you acting worldly or universally, in nature? Are you the product of the universe, or victim of the world? The world operates within the universe, so it makes perfect sense to become aware of your universal abilities. As you become more aware, you will come to understand how much control you actually have in creating the life you actually want. You will begin making choices that make you feel happy and healthy from head to toe, unlike the stressed out and miserable American Robot, trying to keep up with the Jones' (the American family of robots).

Question EVERYTHING!  Build a relationship with yourself; a relationship that cannot be destroyed.  Become  the bag of tools you need to have a happy and healthy life.  Once you begin to focus on YOU, you will progressively become YOU, destroying which once was...the American Robot.