As humans, we experience many external factors: other people's behavior, life-changing events, weather, social situations, and any other uncontrollable circumstance you can think of. As obvious as it is, one cannot control these external factors yet, people are still feeling sad, angry, miserable and all around negative. All you hear from their mouths is crying, whining, complaining, judging, and constantly speaking of their own or even other people and worldly misery. You get the idea, you're of an intelligent species. There is no better feeling than happiness. So why waste any more time and energy on anything but HAPPINESS for yourself??
Most people confuse happiness with a pleasurable experience (i.e. a childhood memory), or with something tangible (i.e. money, job, etc.). Although these external experiences and material possessions can be described as "happy" or "would make [you] feel happy", they do not equate or represent what happiness really is.
Happiness is being conscious of the fact all circumstances are neutral, and realizing your thoughts about the circumstances (your attitude) are the variable that affect your happiness (as in your goal state of mind and being, by our definition). These thoughts are what fuel your actions and emotions. Negative emotions create negative actions just the same as positive actions create positive emotions. No matter the circumstance, your goal should always be to balance out the mind to maintain overall happiness. Real quick, for example - Jane crashes her car, and without any of the smaller details: Jane is alive; Jane's car is totaled. The circumstance of Jane crashing the car - at this point - neutral. Happy Jane is thankful she's alive, reminds herself a car is an external factor - it can be replaced, focuses on herself, and moves on to the next. You won't find Happy Jane dragging on the negative temporary aspects of the crash. You won't find her constantly complaining about how she has no car, or how she's never going to be able to pay for the damages. No. She speaks of solutions, not problems.
After reading this, when you go back to work, chat with someone, or visit a public place - you will be more in tune with the ugly truth that this is the generalized state of mind for many people in this universe. People are more comfortable with living in the regrets of the past and the anxiety of the future, than facing themselves in the mirror and admitting they are the ones behind the control panel of their own reality today and everyday.
We strive to live for the positive and beautiful the universe has to offer by starting with the view of ourselves from the inside out. Create your reality, discover yourself, and literally become the author of your "happy ever after". If you're not sure where to start, START HERE, WITH US :)
Happily Yours,
Jen & Steph; Happy Consultants
Happy Ever After, GP.
Most people confuse happiness with a pleasurable experience (i.e. a childhood memory), or with something tangible (i.e. money, job, etc.). Although these external experiences and material possessions can be described as "happy" or "would make [you] feel happy", they do not equate or represent what happiness really is.
Happiness is being conscious of the fact all circumstances are neutral, and realizing your thoughts about the circumstances (your attitude) are the variable that affect your happiness (as in your goal state of mind and being, by our definition). These thoughts are what fuel your actions and emotions. Negative emotions create negative actions just the same as positive actions create positive emotions. No matter the circumstance, your goal should always be to balance out the mind to maintain overall happiness. Real quick, for example - Jane crashes her car, and without any of the smaller details: Jane is alive; Jane's car is totaled. The circumstance of Jane crashing the car - at this point - neutral. Happy Jane is thankful she's alive, reminds herself a car is an external factor - it can be replaced, focuses on herself, and moves on to the next. You won't find Happy Jane dragging on the negative temporary aspects of the crash. You won't find her constantly complaining about how she has no car, or how she's never going to be able to pay for the damages. No. She speaks of solutions, not problems.
After reading this, when you go back to work, chat with someone, or visit a public place - you will be more in tune with the ugly truth that this is the generalized state of mind for many people in this universe. People are more comfortable with living in the regrets of the past and the anxiety of the future, than facing themselves in the mirror and admitting they are the ones behind the control panel of their own reality today and everyday.
We strive to live for the positive and beautiful the universe has to offer by starting with the view of ourselves from the inside out. Create your reality, discover yourself, and literally become the author of your "happy ever after". If you're not sure where to start, START HERE, WITH US :)
Happily Yours,
Jen & Steph; Happy Consultants
Happy Ever After, GP.
